Thank you for this. These are lessons I’d learned over my years of trying to figure out why I could never seem to make a romantic relationship work – why I never seemed ‘deserving of love’. It was a good reminder that I’ve still failed to complete step one – acceptance. It’s the hardest one, I think.

So much of me wants to tell my parents how they turned me into the lost soul that I’ve been. How they likely stole my dreams of ever becoming a mother, because I couldn’t figure out how to be in a healthy relationship early enough in life to have likely of reproducing.

But I don’t.

What good would it do? As you said, they’ll never apologize.

But acceptance without resolution is extremely difficult, but you’ve reminded me how important acceptance is. I’ve been putting that one on the back burner without realizing. Perhaps this is the next emotional goal to work on.


Sassy+Loving. Scientific+Spiritual. Nomadic. Always sincere, often wry. Hopefully romantic. Polymath.