This. All the way. When my partner and I have tough conversations, if we notice either of us is starting to speak from a defensive standpoint, we press pause, walk away to collect our thoughts, and return to the conversation a bit later. It’s very important to both of us that we don’t say something mean in the midst of emotional turmoil. Once it’s said, it can never be unsaid, even if it wasn’t meant.

Sassy+Loving. Scientific+Spiritual. Nomadic. Always sincere, often wry. Hopefully romantic. Polymath.

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