This one is so important. I’m someone who needs to process intense emotions very externally. As an adult, I’ve learned to journal, rather than processing at people. It’s possible I might be feeling angry or hurt about something that happened between my partner and I, and I will use my journal to process those thoughts before bringing them up for discussion with him. If he were to read my journal, he’d be stumbling onto an argument that we never had. Where I say all the mean things that spring to mind in the heat of the moment — things I’d never actually say, because once said they can’t be unsaid. People have the right to have thoughts they’d never act on. What good can possibly come from sneaking a peak into someone’s mind, without permission?

Sassy+Loving. Scientific+Spiritual. Nomadic. Always sincere, often wry. Hopefully romantic. Polymath.

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